Marriage
Preparation of Marriage
Preparing for your marriage is one of the most important events of your lives which requires careful consideration of all the details relating to the RELIGIOUS aspects of the day. The following guidelines are meant to aid you in your preparations and put before you all the requirements of the parish for your marriage celebration. The parish priests will be most happy to help you in any way to plan this important day of your life. Please feel free to discuss any questions, problems or concerns with them.
1. Marriage Policy at St. Justin’s: Church law dictates that the normal place in which a marriage should take place is the parish of the bride or groom. Consequently, St. Justin, Martyr Parish requires that you register with us as a Parishioner.
2. Booking Dates for Marriage: The couple must contact the parish about ONE YEAR in advance of the proposed marriage date, so that they will have adequate time to meet the other requirements given in this package. Pre-nuptial investigation and the beginning of the marriage forms are filled out at the first interview with the couple. The date of the wedding is set at this interview - it cannot and will not be booked over the phone beforehand.
3. Times For Marriage : The following times are set aside for the celebration of weddings - Saturday’s at 11:00 a.m., 1:00 p.m. or 3:00 p.m. Weddings may be scheduled from Monday to Friday. Weddings are not permitted on Sundays within the Archdiocese of Toronto.
4. Marriage Instruction : It is required for the couple to have completed a marriage preparation course. Several of these courses are conducted in the parish during the year. Some couples ask about the weekend marriage courses that are conducted at retreat centres. These courses are intended for those who cannot take a parish-based program.
To accommodate difficult situations, we have online Marriage Preparation Courses available. Please visit The Catholic Family Services of Toronto website www.cfstoronto.com
5. Priest For Marriage : The parish priest with whom arrangements are made for the wedding and who conducts your first interview will most likely be the one who will perform the marriage ceremony.
6. Documents Required
a) Baptismal Certificate : Every Catholic being married must produce a current certificate of Baptism. A non-Catholic party, if baptized, should also provide proof of baptism, this need not be a current document, a copy would suffice.
b) Previous Marriages : If a previous marriage existed, the following documents are required; I) a death certificate or a divorce decree; ii) an official confirmation from the proper ecclesiastical court with regard to the dissolution or nullity of the marriage. No date for marriage can be given until freedom to marry has been documented and approved by the Archbishop’s office.
7. Spiritual Preparation : It is expected for the couple to be connect to the Parish in reasonable ways, especially by regular participation at Sunday Mass.
8. Interfaith Marriages : Marriage between a Catholic and non-Catholic or an un-baptized person is celebrated without Mass. This allows both parties to participate fully in the Marriage Rites along with their family and friends.
9. Planning The Liturgy : The couple is encouraged to make their marriage celebration personal by planning the ceremony with the presiding priest. The couple will be given the opportunity to choose a number of prescribed scriptural passages, prayers and blessings. At the end of the parish marriage preparation course the couple will be given a booklet to help them make these choices. The selections will then be finalized with the parish priest at the second interview.
a) Lectors (Readers) : The couple may choose a mature person to proclaim the first and second readings, as well as the prayers of the faithful. The readers should be baptized Christians and be able to proclaim the readings clearly and devoutly.
b) Altar Servers : St. Justin, Martyr usually provides servers for a wedding Mass. However, if a couple has a relative, they would like to serve at the wedding, the parish priest should be consulted in advance. The standard offering for a parish server is $20.00.
c) Music : Music is an important part of any wedding. It should, however, reflect the sacredness of the celebration. For this reason secular songs or show tunes are not allowed in a wedding ceremony. We require to have Prayer Mass. Contact our Musician through the Parish Office.
d) Flowers : Flowers for the wedding are the sole responsibility of the bridal party. Please keep the floral arrangements simple. No Floral arches or large floral candle stands can be used.
e) Runner : No runners are allowed (regardless of their material) due to insurance restrictions.
f) Photographer and Videographer : The photographer should be unobtrusive and as inconspicuous as possible. At the very least, the photographer should check with the priest 10 minutes before the ceremony for any guidelines and restrictions.
The videographer is to remain in a fixed position during the ceremony. They may move about only at the opening and closing processions.
g) Confetti: The use of rice or confetti is not allowed in the church or on the church grounds.
h) Suggested Church Offering: The church offering is $650. These offerings should be placed in separate envelopes and given to the priest on the night of the wedding rehearsal.
i) Parish Hall: The parish hall at St. Justin, Martyr is not available for rent.
We trust that these guidelines will help you in planning your wedding. May the time between now and your wedding day be used to ask God’s blessing on your newly chosen vocation. May your wedding day be one of peace, joy and happiness.
For all other enquiries, please contact the Priest through Parish Office.
Sacrament of Matrimony
The liturgy of the Sacrament of Marriage in the Church is full of beautiful symbols and blessings. Discerning this sacrament as a divine calling for you is more crucial than one's consideration of many well-known social benefits of marriage. The Church believes and teaches marriage as "a special sacrament" for "the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity" [1] and "mutual help and service" between a baptized man and a baptized woman in the unique, life-long partnership of total and mutual self-giving love. Marriage and married love are by their nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring, so that a man and a woman by their union in Christ are "no longer two, but one flesh" (Matt. 19ff).[2]
[1] Liturgy of the Sacrament of Marriage.
[2] Gaudium et Spes, 48.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. We just got engaged! What should we do to get married in the Catholic Church?
Congratulations! The first step is to contact your local Catholic parish. If both of you are Catholic, you may contact either one of your parish priests. Your pastor will schedule a series of interviews with you both in order to prepare you pastorally for marriage.
2. Is completion of an approved marriage preparation program a requirement for getting married in the Catholic Church?
If you planned to be married in a parish within the Archdiocese of Toronto, yes, it is a requirement to complete an approved marriage preparation program.
3. How far in advance should the couple intending to be married speak to the pastor about their anticipated wedding date?
Couples should speak to their pastor at least twelve months in advance.
4. Is the celebration different if the bride or the groom isn't Catholic?
To maintain consistency across the Archdiocese of Toronto, it is a policy that no Eucharist be celebrated for marriages between a Catholic and a non-baptized person. The celebration of the Eucharist at marriages between a Catholic and a validly baptized non-Catholic is discouraged.
5. Can ministers of non-Catholic Christian communities take part in a Catholic wedding?
Yes, and you must consult your priest for the arrangement.
6. Do Bible readings have to be part of the wedding liturgy?
Yes. There are many beautiful passages and themes from the list of the readings for the couple to consider together. Their priest will be able to help them find appropriate readings.
7. We have prepared our own vows and would like to use the ones we prepared, at the exchange of vows ceremony. Is this allowed?
No. There are many places for creative choice in the ceremony, but the content of the vows is for the validity of the act of entering marriage and therefore we ask that the given formula be carefully observed.
8. We have selected some well-known and meaningful pieces of music for our wedding. However, our Pastor will not allow us to use them.
In planning your wedding, you must consult the Pastor and the existing policy about music and the securing of musicians on your music selection. The Church has a rich repertoire of beautiful and suitable music and hymns. We are confident that with your Pastor’s help, you will find meaningful pieces of music for such a sacred event as your wedding celebration. Celebrating Matrimony takes place within the context of a liturgical ceremony, which is regulated by the Church.
9. Is it true that the Church doesn't recommend that the bride's father give her away?
Culture and family are very much part of the discussion in terms of the details of the celebration. Your priest will be able to speak to your particular situation.
10. We would like to be married in a Catholic Church in another country. How do we go about it?
The procedure to get married in a Catholic Church in another country or Diocese is similar to getting married locally. Please contact your local Pastor who will prepare you for marriage and instruct you to take the Marriage Preparation Course. The Marriage documents are then 'transferred' to the Parish of marriage in the other country via the Chancery offices of the respective Dioceses involved or by being handed back to you to send to the Diocese which you will be married in, months in advance of your wedding.
11. Could we get permission to marry outside the Catholic Church, for example, at a Banquet Hall?
A parish church is the ordinary place for the celebration of a marriage involving two Catholics or a Catholic and a baptized non-Catholic. Since the marriage of two baptized persons is a sacrament, it is not merely a private or familial celebration but also an ecclesial event. The spouses declare their consent before God and the Church and live out that commitment in and with the support of the local ecclesial community. Therefore, this celebration should take place in the parish church. Exceptions are only made when there is a grave and urgent cause such as illness or danger of death.
12. I am Roman Catholic but my spouse-to-be is a non-Christian. To satisfy the wishes of both our families, we would like to have two wedding ceremonies, one at the Roman Catholic Church, and another ceremony to follow or precede, in the non-Christian Church. Is this allowed?
Canon 1127 §3 of the Code of Canon Law forbids a double celebration of the same marriage for the purpose of giving or renewing matrimonial consent.
13. I have been married before in the Catholic Church. I have made arrangements to get married in two months. Can a Catholic Priest marry us as scheduled?
We cannot guarantee that a Catholic priest can officiate your wedding. Generally speaking, betrothed couples are advised to make arrangement with their local Pastor at least one year before their tentatively planned date of marriage. If either of you were previously married, you must disclose that information to your parish priest who will consult the Marriage Tribunal about your situation: the Church maintains that the new union cannot be recognized as valid if the first marriage is valid. In addition, a special second marriage preparation course by Catholic Family Services of Toronto is mandatory.
14. Can we use Banns or do we have to be married by Marriage Licence?
A couple must be married by Marriage Licence. It is our policy to not publish Banns in the Archdiocese of Toronto.
15. We would like to have our wedding on a Sunday to accommodate our relatives who will be travelling from out of town for our wedding?
According to the particular law of the Archdiocese of Toronto (promulgated since 1971), weddings in the Catholic Church are not allowed to be celebrated on Sundays or Holy Days of Obligation (January 1, the Solemnity of Mary, Mother of God and December 25, the Solemnity of the Nativity of our Lord Jesus Christ).
Resources
To learn more about the Sacrament of Matrimony, these resources may help:
